Warning Signs for Teens
Are you in an abusive relationship? Are any of these things true of you:

• Your weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically since you started seeing this person
• You worry about how they will react to things you say or do
• You feel that your needs and desires come second
• You think twice about expressing your own thoughts or feelings
• You worry you might make the "wrong" decision about what you wear, where you go and who with hang out with
• Your family or friends warn you about this person or worry about your safety
• You are frightened of this person, maybe not before but lately

Warning Signs in a Dating Partner
Are any of these things true of your dating partner? Does the person you are dating...

• Tell you they cannot live without you
• Blame you for all their problems
• Break or hit things to intimidate you
• Threaten to hurt themselves or others if you break up
• Act jealous, say jealous things, or forbid you to speak with certain people
• Pressure you into having sex or force you to do sexual things you don't want to do by saying, "if you really loved me you would..."
• Humiliate you and belittle your opinions
• Slap or shove you in a seemingly playful way, but it happens often and doesn't seem right
• Seem jealous and possessive about the time you spend with your friends
• Constantly check up on you and ask where you are and what you are doing
• Have severe mood swings or frequent bad moods
• Want you to limit your other activities so you can spend more time together
• Want your relationship to get too serious too quickly and refuse to take "no" for an answer
• Blame past bad relationships on everything or everybody else instead of accepting any of the responsibility
• Abuses drugs or alcohol and pressure you to take them also, even if you don't want to
• Believe men should be in control and women should do what they're told
• Treat you like property rather than a person they value
• Call you names, kick, hit, or push you in anger
• Get aggressive or abusive toward inanimate objects or animals
• Force you to choose between being with them or with your friends or family
• Lash out or blame you for having a bad day
• Use or own weapons or have a history of violence and fighting
• Blow minor disagreements or issues way out of proportion
• Dislike your parents and friends
• Hit, push, choke, kick or physically hurt you
• Threaten to break up with you or accuse you of planning to break up with them
• Disrepects their mother or generally treat their parents badly
• Insult you, criticize you, especially in front of others
• Brag about mistreating other people
• Have trouble controlling their temper