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Posted: February 14, 2013 11:14 p.m.

How to recover from a bad V-Day

I might not have a designated valentine this year, but I spent a whole lot of years married, and I have been the recipient of some amazing Valentine’s Day gifts and events. I have also been on the other end of the spectrum with some pretty awful experiences. So how does one recover from messing up what is supposed to be the one required day of the year for romance?

The argument that Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday designed to sell candy and cards, or that you should be able to show your love throughout the year and not on just one day that society tells you to will fall on deaf ears. Know why? Because the only people who say who are those who are single and lonely or who forgot to get something for his or her significant other. If you are so into telling your love how amazing she is throughout the year, how come I don’t see more bouquets on desks in June?

The first step to recovery is this weekend.

1. Don’t lie: It will be tempting to say that you planned a weekend dinner, gift, surprise, etc., with the thought being you can get out of being a jerk on the actual day. But don’t. Your lady or dude will see right through that mess. You need to acknowledge you’ve been thoughtless and that you would like to make it up by cooking a meal, or going on a fun adventure. This weekend will be cold, so try for some indoor activities, like the aquarium or a museum. And you’d better be sweet — no attitudes allowed. Now if you just did something stupid, like bailed on plans or acted like a jerk for no reason, I don’t think all the advice in the world will help you out of that one. I wouldn’t forgive you.

2. Make it up: I’m not saying you have to apologize until your lips go numb or anything, but do apologize. Sincerely. And make it up to her or him. Make sure the upcoming weekend is all about her. Get some flowers, fill her bedroom with balloons, or have flowers delivered to work on Monday. As everyone else’s flowers are dying, hers will be super fresh and lovely.

3. Grovel: Some people are mean about forgetting presents. I personally like presents, and would probably get cranky if someone forgot me on Valentine’s Day. Commercial holiday or not, I like flowers. Right now, I am staring at our reporter Danielle Everson’s flowers and chocolate covered strawberries and thinking that her boyfriend just got some major brownie points. If you mess up, fess up, don’t get all cranky about it.

4. Let it go: If you’ve apologized, gotten the gift, made an effort and your partner is still determined to be cranky about it, it might be time to re-think that relationship. Everyone messes up sometimes. If you act right about it and she still want to linger on the negative, maybe you should peace out and go have a beer with your friends. Or you could always bring me those flowers. My favorite color is red.

Amber Pittman is a reporter for The Covington News. She can be reached at apittman@covnews.com com.

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